http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/en-UKMokoFeed10http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/http://data5.blog.de/design/preview/62/9a9a8be86ac84c81c64498118bc34b_160x200.jpghttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/05/15/fail_fail_and_fail_better~802874/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2006-05-15:/2006/05/15/fail_fail_and_fail_better~802874/Mon, 15 May 2006 23:52:22 +0200 <p>Fail Fail and Fail Better - Quote </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/05/15/fail_fail_and_fail_better~802874/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/05/15/fail_fail_and_fail_better~802874/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/05/08/title~785014/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2006-05-08:/2006/05/08/title~785014/Mon, 08 May 2006 19:51:02 +0200 <p>Ok so I am a bit upset today. My ex had been getting messages from some guy at her uni for god knows how long trying to get her into bed. Finally she decided.</p> <p>So she tells me tryin to see some reaction but I'm back to ice cold again, 9 months is a long time. To give her her due shes honest, even told the guy shes seeing (Mr. Rebound). Apparently he didn't take it as well. But it all helps...all of this it helps to get over the love. I will always have love for her I just don't think I love her anymore. Damn I said it I don't love her anymore. Hmmm I could just be trying to convince myself who knows. But I have been feeling this way for a while and as they say time is a healer.</p> <p>ON ANOTHER NOTE OR SHOULD I SAY GRIPE<br> <strong><br> Y are there no longer any expectations for the modern woman?</strong></p> <p>I know I sound like I am bitching but who can tell me what the modern expectations for a woman are.</p> <p>This is what I FEEL they are for men:</p> <p>1. Be more romantic<br> 2. Be more sensitive<br> 3. Be more affectionate<br> 4. Groom more, cook more, roses roses roses lol<br> 5. Understand the monthly cycle<br> 6. ... let me stop here GUYS HELP ME OUT TOO</p> <p>Ladies this is why I say this because the modern man can't:</p> <p>1. Can't expect her to cook meals<br> 2. Can't expect her to pay else he is a cheap b<strong>*</strong>*<br> 3. Can't expect her to ... hmm let me stop here and leave it open.</p> <p>From the Bitcha </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/05/08/title~785014/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>womenlovebitchdramahttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/05/08/title~785014/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/04/27/ghandi_quote~761128/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2006-04-27:/2006/04/27/ghandi_quote~761128/Thu, 27 Apr 2006 22:19:49 +0200 <p>"Nobody can hurt me without my permission.” Mahatma Gandhi </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/04/27/ghandi_quote~761128/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/04/27/ghandi_quote~761128/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/04/20/i_just_wanna_write~740750/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2006-04-19:/2006/04/20/i_just_wanna_write~740750/Thu, 20 Apr 2006 00:20:03 +0200 <p>I wanna write I just wanna write something. I don’t care what I write just so long as I can’t get this sad feeling off my chest.</p> <p>I just lost football. Don’t be confused its more than that. OK I didn’t lose I drew but I play sport to rid my emotions. If I win I am fine for a week. If I lose I am devastated but we drew… same difference.</p> <p>I gotta get things in perspective. I am confused three women whom I like can’t make a choice don’t want too. To be honest I wouldn’t mind being alone. But being alone is a scary place.</p> <p>My ex refuses to be alone right now, so she has a doormat in too fill that gap… a rebound. Not that he couldn’t be the one for her but I know that he aint the one. I want to be the one but I just don’t think it can work. Fire and Fire just doesn’t work he’s water he’s what she needs.</p> <p>All that work I put in to get her to be independent by spending nights alone with me by the phone for times of loneliness but prepping her non the less for being an independent woman and now hes more or less there every night.</p> <p>Down the drain.</p> <p>I feel for her. Until you do what I do you have never really recovered from love. ALONE TIME. That’s what every1 needs after a relationship.</p> <p>Damn its been 6 months and I still aint over her. Love what a bitch. I’m so messed up I am typing at 12 at night … to myself. Powerful love is.</p> <p>Footprints Footprints me and my God that’s all I need.</p> <p>Maybe I am just hurting cos someone else it there not me. Maybe. But I still know whats best. Avoid the rebound that’s y I’m on a phone diet. Avoiding every1.</p> <p>She was the one. Maybe not at the end the connection was lost. Too much baggage to carry for too long a journey.</p> <p>It’s a pity because she is laying the foundation for insecurities with her new man by talking about me. She’ll learn. I did. Never talk about the past it only brings the dirt into the present.</p> <p>I drew conclusion on one thing today. Tell me if I am wrong.</p> <p>In a relationship be it big all small… we all want to tell the truth but if whatever it is … if we feel we could lose that person we usually if not always choose to avoid that truth.</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/04/20/i_just_wanna_write~740750/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>lovehttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/04/20/i_just_wanna_write~740750/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/04/16/jibba_jabba_jobba~731720/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2006-04-16:/2006/04/16/jibba_jabba_jobba~731720/Sun, 16 Apr 2006 15:15:46 +0200 <p>Back to writing my blog again.</p> <p>I always drop in when I’m feeling low or I’ve got time on my hands.</p> <p>How do you close a chapter in your life when you’re not ready? There is no way I suppose. Sometimes in life you have to put feelings aside. I have to accept that this is that time.</p> <p>Its very hard to remove yourself emotionally sometimes. But I am working at it. Funny how writing can be so therapeutic listening to U2 is helping too. Blogs are great man just write whatever you want jibba jabba jobba see!!!</p> <p>I am a man now reaching that stage in his life looking for completion. Got a good job two degrees and a good friends circle. Just two more things make that three the third being more long term.</p> <p>1. House within a year<br> 2. Girlfriend aka wifey after 1<br> 3. Kids a lil mini mi or a beautiful girl I can spoil rotten</p> <p>I’m ready, shhh don’t tell no one lol</p> <p><img src="/img/smilies/icon_wink.gif" alt=";)" class="middle" border="0"><br> <a href="http://www.blog.co.uk/srv/media/media_item.php?item_ID=483424"><img src="http://data1.blog.de/media/424/483424_550470d145_t.jpeg" align="" alt="longroad" vspace="5" hspace="5"></a> </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/04/16/jibba_jabba_jobba~731720/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>lovereadyhttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/04/16/jibba_jabba_jobba~731720/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/04/09/love_hypothesis~715245/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2006-04-09:/2006/04/09/love_hypothesis~715245/Sun, 09 Apr 2006 21:16:34 +0200 <p>Love… In the last six months I have realised how devastating love can be.</p> <p><a href="http://www.blog.co.uk/srv/media/media_item.php?item_ID=469398"><img src="http://data1.blog.de/media/398/469398_e6b7e59b97_s.jpeg" align="" alt="old_couple_3413123" vspace="5" hspace="5"></a></p> <p>Am I a fan? Hell no!</p> <p>But if I haven’t dealt with the pain of losing love am I a closet fan? I just don’t know. </p> <p>My girlfriend whoops lol EX wrote a poem for my birthday a long time ago. “Are you ready for love because I am ready?”. In hindsight I think she was ready in heart but not in mind. As for me I was neither. But what this girl did was truly amazing she forced me to open up my heart to love. I still can’t say if I am 100% sure that was a good thing. Because as much as the joy is priceless, the pain is enduring and in my opinion more consuming. But does this mean I don’t want love in my life? Well … know.</p> <p>Its like a drug you see, Heroina… the love drug. Drugs aren’t necessarily good for you however. That was my conclusion and the reason I am currently out of a relationship. But I am an addict for this love so what to do.</p> <p>I have seen a lot of people devastated by love and judging by the tunes I hear on the radio there are a lot more “devastatees” too. As a mathematician I look at the stats. On average I reckon people go through at least 4 or 5 say 5 serious relationships before they settle down with THE ONE. Now in the UK roughly 50% of marriages end in divorce. Add to that a speculative figure that at least 40% of the remaining marriages that don’t end in divorce are unhappy ones (come on we can all see those ropy couples) that means each relationship you engage in has a 4% chance of really ending in a <u>completely </u>happy relationship.</p> <p>OK I know that figure is biased based on my pessimism but we can all agree that there is some element of truth in this hypothesis.</p> <p>But I have become a true romantic as a result of one encounter with love. Have you found your 4%? One in twenty five chance I say. F*ck it! If you’re a sucker for love who cares ay, lets keep searching?</p> <p>Find it and never let it go</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/04/09/love_hypothesis~715245/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>lovehttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/04/09/love_hypothesis~715245/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/03/03/life_emotions_confusion~610354/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2006-03-03:/2006/03/03/life_emotions_confusion~610354/Fri, 03 Mar 2006 19:50:57 +0100 <p><strong>QUOTE OF THE DAY: I wanted a perfect ending. Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems don't rhyme, and some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity. - Gilda Radner</strong></p> <p><a href="http://www.blog.co.uk/srv/media/media_item.php?item_ID=397224"><img src="http://data1.blog.de/media/224/397224_76d6b378ea_s.jpeg" align="" alt="Confused-1a" vspace="5" hspace="5"></a></p> <p>Life a pure roller coaster. I am 27 have never been in so many minds all at one time. Where do I start well this week my Gran died to add to my already emotional state. I know there will be tears on the Monday (her funeral) but the African way is rather to look at it as a celebration of her life. After all she had a great life huge family and was well cared for all the way up until she chose to leave this earth. She had a good innings one might say!</p> <p>It’s funny how life is huh? Signs, Gut instincts, chance meetings, past returning to present, everything happening for a reason. </p> <p><u>Signs</u><br> The week b4 Gran passed Mum and I were at her care home with family to make her comfortable in this new environment. She tried to say something to us but can no longer process speech properly. All she could muster was “Barbara”. This could be one of two people her Sister (RIP) or her daughter, my Mum’s twin sister (RIP). If ever you wanted a <strong>SIGN </strong>this was it. In my eyes and Mums Gran was ready to leave, maybe Angel Barbara was there telling her it was time. She passed the next week, rest in peace Gran L</p> <p><u>Gut Instinct</u><br> But God always dishes good and bad out in doses. Although still broken up with passed girlfriend I am still there for her as protector/mentor/boyfriend minus the physical whatever you wanna call it. I just can’t let her go and neither can she … see new Ne-Yo to get an idea how I’m feeling. Don’t worry still won’t go back I still know it aint right. However I’m straying off the point. To keep it short I supported her all the way through uni and she’s just got her first acting contract today boy I’m so happy for her. I had a <strong>GUT </strong>feeling she was going to be successful that was about four years ago when she first did her audition-for-college-practice in my bedroom. I was mesmerised, couldn’t take my eyes off her WOW!</p> <p><u>Chance meetings</u><br> I go out on New Year meet a girl one of many at the time, but this girl is mature 3 years my elder and it works. We go for a drink and hit it off. But I don’t want to go in a relationship I know I am not ready. But I meet once a week and get a text everyday… aint that a bit too close to what I am trying to avoid. That night I chose to go out based on the theory any girl without their man on new years is 99% definitely single, so I put in work. More <strong>CHANCE </strong>and another roll of the dice.</p> <p><u>Past returning to present</u><br> A girl I met in the <strong>PAST</strong>, 5 years ago comes to London for a holiday from Italy. We spend a great Valentines week together and there is a chance she might return in the summer. Again it works. Thanks to MSN for keeping peeps in touch.</p> <p><u>Everything happening for a reason</u><br> So has this all happened for a reason who knows? In the space of a couple months I have met these two new great women but my heart (not my body) remain with my Ex. Throw on top of that a death in the family and what do you get but a slightly emotional young man.</p> <p>Gosh I am confused…<br> “Am I in too deep with the New Year’s girl?”<br> “Should I give the foreign girl a chance?”<br> “Do I still want my ex?”<br> “Or does it hurt me to let her go after putting in so much to see her finally realise her success without me by her side?”<br> “Am I suppressing my hurt for Gran?”</p> <p>All I can say is it’s a great learning experience and as long as I’ve got good music then I can channel all emotions that come my way.</p> <p>In God we trust he’ll take me where I am supposed to go. ONE</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/03/03/life_emotions_confusion~610354/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>confusedlovehttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/03/03/life_emotions_confusion~610354/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/02/06/real_trust_and_the_dreaded_mobi~540251/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2006-02-06:/2006/02/06/real_trust_and_the_dreaded_mobi~540251/Mon, 06 Feb 2006 19:26:06 +0100 <p><strong>Tip of the day: Without trust what do you have really? But remember a lie does not make someone one untrustworthy, keep things in perspective. Have you ever fibbed?</strong></p> <p><img src="http://data1.blog.de/blog/p/pain-is-love/img/mobi.jpg" border="0" alt=""></p> <p>Now I have never been one to go down someone’s mobile phone but in my last relationship on one occasion I was guilty. Why did I do it because I picked up a scent and having played the game the way I have I was adamant I would find something and I did. Who knows maybe she wanted me to find something. I trusted her not to be stupid and waste what we had but I didn’t trust her not to entertain men’s interest. If I recall I confronted her first and then went about finding evidence later as I just didn’t believe her excuse.</p> <p><u>Rule #1</u> <em>If you go down your partners phone the chances are you are more likely to find something than not.</em></p> <p>This doesn’t mean the person is untrustworthy a rat etc. it just means you’ve found something that may appear worse than it is or was kept personal because that’s just what it was.</p> <p>I mean come on how many people at some point have had a text message or a missed call from someone in the past that they choose to keep in the past? Does this mean you’re dishonest? Ultimately if you really distrust someone that much you shouldn’t really be with him or her. Secondly by going through their phone you have opened it up two ways.</p> <p>The fact is this new technology has brought us a whole added complexity. Personal messages for you only are now accessible to other people whom they weren’t meant for. The mobile phone was the final “nokia on the camels back” for me. Although I did not cheat I had an old flame under a different name call it an ex-player hanging on to the past. With an already failing relationship and trust threadbare this did nothing to enhance trust values. So we parted ways, thanks mobi!</p> <p>Ultimately you could be Colombo and someone could still be untrustworthy. The best thing to do is let it go and trust 100%, easier said than done I know but a lot easier to live with than doubting all the time.</p> <p><strong>Quote of the day: Don’t let your heart and mind stay at war<br> Carl Thomas - Rebound</strong> </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/02/06/real_trust_and_the_dreaded_mobi~540251/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>mobitrusthttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/02/06/real_trust_and_the_dreaded_mobi~540251/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/02/04/quote_of_the_year_so_far~533845/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2006-02-04:/2006/02/04/quote_of_the_year_so_far~533845/Sat, 04 Feb 2006 15:34:43 +0100 <p><strong> "Never argue with an idiot. They drag you down to their level, then beat you with experience!"</strong> </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/02/04/quote_of_the_year_so_far~533845/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>quotehttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/02/04/quote_of_the_year_so_far~533845/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/01/26/so_how_do_i_feel~508073/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2006-01-26:/2006/01/26/so_how_do_i_feel~508073/Thu, 26 Jan 2006 17:24:05 +0100 <p><strong>To day I was cleaning out the closet but I mean literally “cleaning” and I came across a lil something I wrote a couple of years ago to get things off my chest. I think it summarises well how I feel about being in a relationship.</strong></p> <p><em>“So how do I feel?<br> Good question … I’m not sure, I can’t tell! I feel emotion I haven’t felt before.</p> <p>I s this good?<br> Who knows.</p> <p>Is it love?<br> I think so, I know [blank] is the cause of these feelings but are they good or bad?</p> <p>Which out weighs which?</p> <p>I know I’m confused. I’ve never had to write to myself. Never had to talk to other people ([blank], [blank], [blank], [blank]) about how I’m feeling or should be feeling. Is she right for me only the Lord knows? I wish she were <img src="/img/smilies/icon_sad.gif" alt=":(" class="middle" border="0">! But if she were she would be more understanding. Can’t she see that I am trying to do what’s best for her?</p> <p>No one should be too dependent the key to real stability is independence standing on your own two feet. Just you and your God like the footprints poem. But she doesn’t see that she sees me as selfish, nasty, stubborn, a bad person. I feel her anger, hate for every time we speak and it’s not good. I don’t see how it can work. I was strong now I feel weak; I was smart now I feel stupid. I need God, I feel lost.</p> <p>Are these the things that come attached with love?</p> <p>Is this why love is compared to pain?</p> <p>Do I want to be here?<br> Yes in a way it’s worth fighting for but for how long if it can’t work out.</p> <p>Why does she make me feel so selfish or is she the selfish one?</p> <p>Everyday my heart cries … it must be love.</p> <p>But is love really what I want?”<br> </em> </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/01/26/so_how_do_i_feel~508073/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>lovefeelingshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/01/26/so_how_do_i_feel~508073/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/01/18/demands~484005/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2006-01-18:/2006/01/18/demands~484005/Wed, 18 Jan 2006 20:19:23 +0100 <p><strong>Food for thought: Have you ever seen a couple squabbling in public, say at a bus stop? Of the sexes who’s body language is the more dominant ... hmmmm?!</strong><br> <img src="/img/smilies/grayupset.gif" alt=":##" class="middle" border="0"> <img src="/img/smilies/graysigh.gif" alt=":**:" class="middle" border="0"></p> <p>I wrote this message trying to explain a few things (like demands) to a friend of mine about my current views about relationships. I feel it might explain what’s in a lot of male commitmophobes heads lol <img src="/img/smilies/icon_wink.gif" alt=";)" class="middle" border="0"></p> <p><em>"When I say I don’t take well to demands I mean I don’t appreciate when my partner tries to dictate to me with regards to time, commitment, romance etc. Although this is a generalisation I feel guys pick a woman and are content where as women pick a man and then want to change him. Sometimes this results in the man being a different person and subsequently the woman can go off him.</p> <p>I am very much my own man and when I get pressured I react badly basically. As for mistakes the two of us made a hell of a lot, but I can definitely say it was a learning experience. Out of all the girls I’ve known I have only loved this past one. I never had a good view about love but I do appreciate its power. I believe more in intimacy than love. Whether I want to go there again… one day… but it is the only emotion I can’t control and that shits me up for real!</p> <p>I personally am not ready to give that much of myself so soon. In a healthy relationship you both need separate lives but when you are together its needs to be pure passion like one! Damn I sound like a pussy! But that’s real! Whether I want that I don’t know its much simpler being single plus as a guy I reckon I’ve got a shelf life of about 40 lol"</em> <img src="/img/smilies/icon_wink.gif" alt=";)" class="middle" border="0"></p> <p>Peace </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/01/18/demands~484005/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>demandslovehttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/01/18/demands~484005/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/01/17/food_for_thought_women_and_values~478357/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2006-01-16:/2006/01/17/food_for_thought_women_and_values~478357/Tue, 17 Jan 2006 00:35:19 +0100 <p><img src="http://data1.blog.de/blog/p/pain-is-love/img/knight4.jpg" border="0" alt=""></p> <p>Sorry I've been real busy! I've got loads to discuss but no time; coming soon I promise. But I have a point that I would like to raise with everyone interested in relationships. Feel free to call me a chauvinist if you disagree!</p> <p>Modern Ladies! With all these new values would you agree that you are reducing your chances of finding the right man! Not that your values are wrong but we must look at it from an objective point of view.</p> <p>1. Men generally pursue.<br> 2. Are a modern womans values what they are looking for?<br> 3. With the influx of foreign competition with differing values will they choose her first.<br> 4. If her values continue to possibly differ from many of these men does this mean she... must now pursue for a man?<br> 5. If so does this defeat the dream of a night in shining armour and if not can you imagine a domesticated knight in reality.</p> <p>I am just talking remember! Please educate me because I have more questions. <img src="/img/smilies/icon_biggrin.gif" alt=":D" class="middle" border="0"></p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/01/17/food_for_thought_women_and_values~478357/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>lovevalueshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2006/01/17/food_for_thought_women_and_values~478357/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/12/19/outside_influences~400505/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2005-12-19:/2005/12/19/outside_influences~400505/Mon, 19 Dec 2005 22:38:53 +0100 <p><strong>Tip of the day: A man or woman will never learn from nagging he/she will only tire. People only change as a result of consequence. - Face</strong></p> <p><img src="http://data1.blog.de/blog/p/pain-is-love/img/trust.jpg" border="0" alt=""></p> <p>Right now I must get off all this lovi dovi and get back to my original purpose. Relationship topics:<br> <del><br> * When a man looks at another woman</del><br> <del>* When a woman asks a man about her appearance or another woman’s </del><br> <strong>* Outside influences</strong><br> * When a man becomes distant (coming soon)<br> * Real trust and the dreaded mobi (coming soon)<br> * Expectation (coming soon)<br> <strong><br> Outside Influences</strong></p> <p>Now this is a good one! In relationships we are quick to blame a lot of people, but who do we blame last … exactly? For some reason we are slow to criticise ourselves. Here are a few of my favourites:</p> <p>“I wasn’t driving so I couldn’t force my mate to leave early to get here in time.”<br> “My battery died and I forgot”<br> “Well such and such did it…?”</p> <p>The fact is we all have a moral-a-meter inside and we know when we have over stepped the mark and secondly if you have a real understanding and respect for your partner this should not occur to effect your relationship.</p> <p>Again it boils down to trust! I always remember when my mate was running late to meet his girl coming back from up north and was blaming traffic (the outside influence), but in reality he was just late so because his girl didn’t believe him she still gave him a b*llocking. Hence they probably had a night in sulking and no one benefits.</p> <p>I look at it like this, outside influences may or may have not had an effect on circumstances but they do not effect the outcome between the two of you. Ultimately you have to take that person on their word and let it go else it will eat you up inside after all they have an excuse so it will never swing you way. Ultimately if you feel your trust is being abused then you take action and walk. The key is make sure you walk!</p> <p><strong>Quote of the day: Idealism is what precedes experience; cynicism is what follows. - David T. Wolf</strong> </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/12/19/outside_influences~400505/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>trustinfluencelovelieshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/12/19/outside_influences~400505/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/12/09/she_in_the_hands_of_male_company~372038/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2005-12-09:/2005/12/09/she_in_the_hands_of_male_company~372038/Fri, 09 Dec 2005 02:01:34 +0100 <p><strong>Tip of the day: A new life is always but a stone throw away!</strong></p> <p><img src="http://data1.blog.de/blog/p/pain-is-love/img/sank_lg.jpg" border="0" alt="Sankofa an Adinkra symbol"><br> [<em>Sankofa - An Adinkra symbol of importance of learning from the past</em>]</p> <p>Here I am 0035 on Fridays beginning. I can’t sleep and I usually don’t have a problem with nodding off! The reason why I can’t sleep is because I spoke to my ex! She kept the convo short because she had company, male company.</p> <p>Now it’s funny because I have been chasing girls and released an “album” when we went to Manchester so I can’t be mad. I think it’s just an accumulation of things. She forgot my birthday number 1. If I did that I doubt she’d wanna talk to me, but that’s cool. Two she called me today complaining of not knowing what to do. She’s lost her phone and wanted my advice. It was strange because we haven’t talked in a week. Anyway naturally later in the evening I call her back around 2300. I find she has company. It’s almost like I feel her call was premeditated, knowing I would call later that night because in addition she wasn’t in the best of moods.</p> <p>So here I am now! Tearful slightly but they no longer fall (that’s a good thing I am so much stronger). She forgets that I don’t take my mind there.</p> <p><strong>“Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts.” – Proverbs 4.23</strong></p> <p>Listening to Eric Benet - Hurricane I appreciate this album more and more.</p> <p>“And in the end. You won’t break ‘cause your learning how to bend.”</p> <p>“A hurricane, a hurricane/ Is sometimes the only way to wash away the pain /A hurricane, a hurricane/ Is sometimes the only thing that brings you back again”</p> <p><strong> BUY THIS ALBUM IF YOU HAVE BEEN WHERE I HAVE </strong><img src="/img/smilies/grayconfused.gif" alt=":??:" class="middle" border="0"> </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/12/09/she_in_the_hands_of_male_company~372038/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>letting-golovecompetitionhttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/12/09/she_in_the_hands_of_male_company~372038/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/12/07/what_time_is_it_it_game_time~366513/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2005-12-07:/2005/12/07/what_time_is_it_it_game_time~366513/Wed, 07 Dec 2005 01:27:51 +0100 <p><strong>Quote of the day: If her beauty is only skin deep then I am a shallow ass mutha f****! - Face</strong></p> <p><img src="http://data1.blog.de/blog/p/pain-is-love/img/ss_mirror.jpg" border="0" alt=""></p> <p>OK so whaa gwan since last. Boy times move fast! It was but a week and we already have more movement than some earth plates in the wrong areas.</p> <p>Well I said I met a girl but it was as quick to arrive as it (the relationship not the womman hehe!) was to leave. As much as there was a communication breakdown (she speaks lil English and I don't speak anything but) the game she played was universal. Comments welcome ladies work this one out for me please!<br> <strong><br> Scenario:</strong></p> <p>1. We go out to a club have a great time even chemistry<br> 2. I wait till We to call but I get a text saying “How come I haven’t heard from you does this mean I am like any other girl”<br> 3. Cool … so I think she might quite like me. So I call back and arrange to meet her Fr, she says Th after she finishes work late …1am. 1am … in my language that means booty call, but I am not in that frame but I go anyway.<br> 4. So much for booty call. She lives in one foreign student room with 3 others. Doh!<br> 5. So I take her for coffee and we TRY to chat. I do most of the talking, mistake, but I was trying because I know hers is limited.<br> 6. We arrange to meet Su her phones off.<br> 7. I call her like Tu a man picks up, I leave a message “Just her friend D calling”.<br> 8. We I send a text cos after-all the guy might not pass the message although I know she prob passed the phone to him.<br> 9. In the text I say that I don’t like to phone to much and that if she ever wants to hang out call me.<br> 10. Fri I get a text saying “I have difficulties speaking English so our relation seems impossible”. Cool so I reply “I understand but again if ever you want to come out to a let me know”<br> 11. So Su I get a message saying I didn’t understand the text, but it can work but I seem unmotivated. I reply how can I be motivated when I don’t know how you feel.</p> <p>So now here we are one day after my 27th and no word, plus I told her it was my birthday still no reply.</p> <p><strong>My diagnosis:</strong> She likes male attention, I made her doubt when I was distant from the beginning. She wants to see me chase to reaffirm her confidence. She has no real plans with taking things further else she would have made more effort and would want to meet up. Hence I’ve pulled the plug on this one!</p> <p>Fill me in on this one ladies, is my diagnosis correct!</p> <p>Anyway life goes on I met an Australian girl who was cool and an old flame from Italy who has booked me in for Valentines when she comes to London. Back on the block baby!</p> <p>Oh and one more question? My Ex forgot my birthday is this intentional…has to be right?</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/12/07/what_time_is_it_it_game_time~366513/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>vanitylovegameshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/12/07/what_time_is_it_it_game_time~366513/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/12/03/i_don_t_feel_like_it~358576/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2005-12-03:/2005/12/03/i_don_t_feel_like_it~358576/Sat, 03 Dec 2005 22:52:12 +0100 <p><strong>Had to post this forward!</strong><img src="/img/smilies/icon_lol.gif" alt=":DD" class="middle" border="0"><img src="/img/smilies/icon_lol.gif" alt=":DD" class="middle" border="0"></p> <p>One evening last week, my girlfriend and I were getting into bed.<br> Well, the passion started to heat up, when she said "I don't feel like it. I just want you to hold ." I said "WHAT!!!!" So she said the words that every boyfriend on the planet dreads to here...... "You're just not in touch with my emotional needs as a woman enough for me to satisfy your physical needs as a man."<br> She responded to my puzzled look by saying "Can't you just love me for who I am and not what I do for you in the bedroom." Realizing that nothing was going to happen that night, I went to sleep.</p> <p>The very next day I opted to take the day off of work to spend time with her. We went out to a nice lunch and then went shopping at a large, unnamed department store. I walked around with her while she tried on several different very expensive outfits. She couldn't decide which one to take so I told her we'll just buy them all. She wanted new shoes to compliment her new clothes, so I said let's get a pair for each outfit. We went to the jewellery department where she picked out a pair of diamond earrings. Let me tell you... she was so excited, she must have thought I was one wave short of a shipwreck.</p> <p>I started to think she was testing me because she asked a tennis bracelet when she doesn't even play tennis. I think I threw her when I said "That's fine honey." She was almost nearing sexual satisfaction from all the excitement. Smiling with anticipation she finally said "I think this is all darling, let's go to the cashier." I could hardly contain myself when I blurted out, "No honey, I don't feel like it." Her face just went completely blank as her jaw dropped with a baffled "WHAT!!"</p> <p>I then said "Really honey, I just want you to HOLD this stuff for a while. Your just not in touch with my financial needs as a man enough for me to satisfy your shopping needs as a woman."</p> <p>And just when she had this look like she was going to kill me, I added "Why can't you just love me for who I am and not for the things I buy you?"</p> <p>Apparently I'm not having sex tonight either.</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/12/03/i_don_t_feel_like_it~358576/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>jokesexhttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/12/03/i_don_t_feel_like_it~358576/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/29/miss_you_dad~345669/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2005-11-28:/2005/11/29/miss_you_dad~345669/Tue, 29 Nov 2005 00:07:41 +0100 <p>Man just wrote to my Dad for the first time in four years. He died of stomach cancer in 2001. My Mums going back to Ghana tommorrow for her friends funeral and she plans to visit his grave. He never got to see me graduate, so I sent him my grauation pic with some words... after all I got two now.</p> <p>I cried hard for about 3 minutes I loved him so much. Funny how you can just break down in a second huh!</p> <p>Lets call this a different love to the norm that I usually blog. Peace!</p> <p><img src="http://data1.blog.de/blog/p/pain-is-love/img/dadnson.jpg" border="0" alt=""></p> <p>Love you dad, Kobs x <img src="/img/smilies/icon_cry.gif" alt=":'(" class="middle" border="0"> </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/29/miss_you_dad~345669/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/29/miss_you_dad~345669/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/27/the_aftermath~341476/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2005-11-27:/2005/11/27/the_aftermath~341476/Sun, 27 Nov 2005 16:07:27 +0100 <p><strong>Tip of the day: Playing games gives you a 50/50 chance of winning, is it worth the gamble in a relationship with someone u love?</strong></p> <p><img src="http://data1.blog.de/blog/p/pain-is-love/img/queen_01.jpg" border="0" alt=""></p> <p>So she calls me right after having her phone off for most of the weekend! I pick up. We chat, I tell her about watching a movie and straight away she’s like which girl did I watch it with. So I tell it was with my mate but she don’t believe me but it was the truth. I explain to her that now we are separated if we want to maintain a friendship we can’t keep trying to pry info out of each other that the other doesn’t want to disclose. She takes offence I can tell in her tone. After all she has been AWOL since Friday, if I think like her I’d 'of gone crazy.</p> <p>To top it off she says "ok, then you can’t ask me of my movements" which I don’t really. But I see her moves before she has! She forgets I used to play the game like a chess champion. So as we draw to a close she says “OK I better go now, because I have to get ready!”. I say “OK (sarcastically) bye!”. So you want me to wonder where you’re off to? And I do for a minute but I know it’s a game and if it isn’t… I care less now. Time is a healer; after all I have several friends. In fact one I quite like but it’s too soon, plus her English isn’t great. But a foreign romance always has a thrill to it. So that’s that! She forgets that I am capable of detaching like a Velcro strap.</p> <p>I don’t think we will get back together as we are no longer friends in its true sense. Although I don’t want to tell her I have met this girl I quite like. Because after all for once I am not actually trying to get into her pants but instead get to know her. She’s gorgeous but I actually want to spend time rather than go in head first, so to speak lol!<br> <strong><br> Quote of the day: "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have lost at all." - Samuel Butler</strong> </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/27/the_aftermath~341476/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>gameslovehttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/27/the_aftermath~341476/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/23/time_heals~332827/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2005-11-23:/2005/11/23/time_heals~332827/Wed, 23 Nov 2005 23:38:52 +0100 <p><strong>Quote of the day: Time and tide waits for no man - Shakespeare</strong></p> <p>Damn time heals for real! As time goes by and life passes we are able to re-evaluate; understand that God gave us the stength to be our own mate.</p> <p>Damn that only child is back on his lone ride again and actually it's not that bad! <img src="/img/smilies/icon_wave.gif" alt=":wave:" class="middle" border="0"> </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/23/time_heals~332827/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>timelovehttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/23/time_heals~332827/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/18/money_quotes_lamo~317644/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2005-11-18:/2005/11/18/money_quotes_lamo~317644/Fri, 18 Nov 2005 14:32:19 +0100 <p>Instead of getting married again, I'm going to find a woman I don't like and just give her a house." - actor Steven Seagal</p> <p>"Ah, yes 'divorce' from the Latin word meaning 'to rip out a man's genitals through his wallet'." - comedian Robin Williams</p> <p>"No-one would remember the Good Samaritan if he'd only had good intentions. He had money as well." - the caring, sharing Margaret Thatcher</p> <p>"Whoever said money can't buy happiness simply didn't know where to go shopping." – Bo Derek </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/18/money_quotes_lamo~317644/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>moneyhttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/18/money_quotes_lamo~317644/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/14/love_diet_is_your_broken_heart_weighing_~308278/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2005-11-14:/2005/11/14/love_diet_is_your_broken_heart_weighing_~308278/Mon, 14 Nov 2005 22:46:27 +0100 <p><strong>R U over-weighed with excess love that you can't get rid of? Well these sure fire steps will get you back into shape.</strong></p> <p><img src="http://data1.blog.de/blog/p/pain-is-love/img/kerry.jpg" border="0" alt="Love Diet"><br> <em>I couldn’t get over my relationship until I tried the Love diet. Now I feel so good my smile got me an advert deal with Iceland. Kerry</em></p> <p>1. <strong>No love songs:</strong> Cut down on your Soul and Ballad intake as these dramatically increase your depressterol levels.</p> <p>2. <strong>Regular routine:</strong> To keep your emotional state healthy find things to occupy your time go to the gym, movie, for a drink.</p> <p>3. <strong>Not too much drink:</strong> One or too is enough else you may go down that road again. Avoid getting slaughtered, as this WILL affect your soppy levels.</p> <p>4. <strong>Throw away your phone:</strong> Stay disciplined; avoid procrastinating by checking your missed calls every 5 mins this will decrease your lonely levels.</p> <p>5. <strong>Chin ups:</strong> Perform at least one or two chip ups to keep your moral high, don’t walk around with your head down.</p> <p>Order the book now and get "How not to fall in love" free!!! </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/14/love_diet_is_your_broken_heart_weighing_~308278/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>lovediethttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/14/love_diet_is_your_broken_heart_weighing_~308278/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/09/is_it_possible_to_stay_friends_with_your~295739/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2005-11-09:/2005/11/09/is_it_possible_to_stay_friends_with_your~295739/Wed, 09 Nov 2005 19:34:03 +0100 <p><strong>Tip of the day: "Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering." - Yoda</strong></p> <p><a href="http://data1.blog.de/blog/p/pain-is-love/img/yodavshulk_01.jpg" title=""><img src="http://data1.blog.de/blog/p/pain-is-love/img/yodavshulk_01_small.jpg" border="0" alt=""></a></p> <p>Well is it possible to stay friends? It's like the more we talk less the more we don't respect each other. As we grow apart all we can remember are the bad memories. Man phones they got a hell of a lot to answer for. If you see someone in the flesh its so different. If you call them its so impersonal. The fear of losing someone huh Yoda!</p> <p>Why can't I go back to the ruthless days just lock it off one time and not even flinch. </p> <p>Hmmmm. Fear of loss, what we call love ... this is?! Ahh good relations with the blog, I have. </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/09/is_it_possible_to_stay_friends_with_your~295739/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>loveangerdark-siderespecthttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/09/is_it_possible_to_stay_friends_with_your~295739/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/07/title~290064/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2005-11-07:/2005/11/07/title~290064/Mon, 07 Nov 2005 19:56:22 +0100 <p><strong>Tip of the day: In the multitude of thy words wanteth not sin but he who refraineth his lips is wise – Proverbs somewhere!</strong></p> <p><img src="http://data1.blog.de/blog/p/pain-is-love/img/caveman.jpg" border="0" alt=""></p> <p>Right I'm feeling a bit lazy today so I will keep it short. After all every1's read Men are from Mars, Women from Venus (or is it Pluto? Jus' jokin'). But yes when men become distant. Well to start with women need not to take this to heart and only need to look at men when they argue. If two men argue they soon go very silent near the point at which it is most heated. This is because they are so angry that it might possibly be near physical. So they both shut it!</p> <p>When partners argue the man goes silent sometimes because he is boiling over. He knows this and needs to internalise. He will talk when he has calmed down just give him time. Often women need to talk it out but give time it is best not to force him to talk as he is in a rage and won't say anything constructive. If you have read that book then you will know all about that cave ish. Remember if you keep trying to talk it out he won't come out of that cave. </p> <p>You see guys can have heated arguments and then over time forget about it. Women need to talk it out completely or else it just continues to simmer.</p> <p>However us men need to understand that in order to get back on track after the cave its talk time! </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/07/title~290064/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/07/title~290064/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/03/a_new_day_a_new_topic_when_a_woman_asks_~281702/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2005-11-03:/2005/11/03/a_new_day_a_new_topic_when_a_woman_asks_~281702/Thu, 03 Nov 2005 23:04:26 +0100 <p><strong>Tip of the day: If you want to stay out of trouble be careful what you say. - Proverbs 21.23</strong></p> <p>Hmmm well I am getting into this blogging idea now! Funny normally I would never have so much time on my hands, its crazy how much time you do have when ur single. Mood is still like a sine wave but the pain is less. Was listening to maxwell - this womans work "..should be crying but I just can't let it go...". Anyway what to write?...Well sticking to the topic list it will b</p> <p><u>When a woman asks a man about her appearance or another woman’s</u></p> <p>Now this is a tough one for the lads. Its a lose lose situation! We have to give some answer or its like we have summin bad to say. So we try to be tactful and honest. There's that word again... honest... does she really want honesty? When her friend asks her how she looks is she honest or does she just try not to hurt her feelings. This is the dilemma! Because women only ask these questions when the are insecure if she has great legs she won't ask ... "Babes do my legs look a bit blah blah?". So we are constructive with positives but one negative that cuts like a butchers knife outta hell's kitchen although its more like a plastic butter knife. We think its minor but it soon becomes major.</p> <p>“Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts.” - Proverbs 4.23</p> <p>From experience I really ... I... don't know! I think do what girl-friends do, say whats nice after all we all need to feel secure. Its what we call a little white lie huh! I know girls do to keep us guys ego inflated huh!</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/03/a_new_day_a_new_topic_when_a_woman_asks_~281702/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>loveinsecuritieshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/11/03/a_new_day_a_new_topic_when_a_woman_asks_~281702/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/10/29/love_is_pain_pain_is_love~268477/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2005-10-29:/2005/10/29/love_is_pain_pain_is_love~268477/Sat, 29 Oct 2005 02:27:16 +0200 <p><strong>Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts – Proverbs 4.23</strong></p> <p><img src="/img/smilies/grayconfused.gif" alt=":??:" class="middle" border="0"></p> <p>I am so in love with her. It hurts inside so deep that we might no longer be together. Every song, every image oh man it hurts. I am so afraid of this powerful emotion the only one I have no real control over.</p> <p>For the first time I listened to a song that I just heard on the radio a couple of times. I am sure everyone else knows it well; forgive me as its not really my genre choice.</p> <p>"When you try your best but you don't succeed<br> When you get what you want but not what you need<br> When you feel so tired but you can't sleep<br> Stuck in reverse</p> <p>And the tears come streaming down your face<br> When you lose something you can't replace<br> When you love someone but it goes to waste<br> Could it be worse?" - Coldplay, Fix You</p> <p>I have never felt so vulnerable in my life, not since I lost my father in 2001. And what's worse there is still hope in a relationship where in death there is only time to recover.</p> <p>Man I have known so many women but none have had such a profound effect on me. I opened my heart for the first time ever and enjoyed real love but with love comes pain. The question I ask is all this worth it?</p> <p>Yes but within you realms of sanity. If it becomes too much for your very existence I feel one must ask questions.</p> <p>So here I am dealing with my demons, as all my mates are busy this Friday night!</p> <p>“When you're too in love to let it go<br> But if you never try you'll never know”</p> <p>“And im so sick of love songs<br> So tired of tears<br> So done with wishing you were still here<br> Said im so sick of love songs so sad and slow<br> So why cant i turn off the radio?” So Sick – Ne-Yo</p> <p>I am feeling better listening to Robbie “Your GAY Friend” got this off my chest.</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/10/29/love_is_pain_pain_is_love~268477/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>painlovehttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/10/29/love_is_pain_pain_is_love~268477/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/10/28/when_a_man_looks_at_another_woman~267904/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2005-10-28:/2005/10/28/when_a_man_looks_at_another_woman~267904/Fri, 28 Oct 2005 19:50:34 +0200 <p><strong>Tip of the day:Anger is cruel and destructive, but it is nothing compared to jealousy - Proverbs 27.4</strong></p> <p><img src="http://data1.blog.de/blog/p/pain-is-love/img/jealous.jpg" border="0" alt=""></p> <p>When a man looks at another woman the only reason the woman knows is because she saw her first! The word attractive is for a reason. Women have to appreciate that men will look, the only reason men don't complain or complain less is because women are smarter when it comes to looking.</p> <p>The facts are we all look! Men need to refrain from the "jaw drop" stare and women need to ease up on the cctv eye! Sometimes an attractive woman can come into your mans line of site it doesn't mean he was watching for her on radar.</p> <p><strong>Puzzler of the day: Why don't men get told off for looking at average girls?</strong> </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/10/28/when_a_man_looks_at_another_woman~267904/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/10/28/when_a_man_looks_at_another_woman~267904/#commentshttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/10/26/a_new_beginning_from_playboy_to_looking_~262681/tag:pain-is-love.blog.co.uk,2005-10-26:/2005/10/26/a_new_beginning_from_playboy_to_looking_~262681/Wed, 26 Oct 2005 14:25:40 +0200 <p><strong>Tip of the day: A person's tone when they are talking accounts for almost 50% of how a person perceives your current state of emotion. If you are really trying to communicate to your partner think about your tone <img src="/img/smilies/icon_smile.gif" alt=":)" class="middle" border="0"></strong></p> <p>Hi to all! Well this is my first blog... ever! And what brought me here ...love.</p> <p>Who I am: I am a young man who as been around the block but on his last female encounter found and lost love due to his past, mistakes during and her + his insecurities.</p> <p>I am fascinated by the relationship between men and women. In this blog I will hope to highlight what I feel are some of the differences as well as address the methods I feel are the way forward for a couple in my eyes.</p> <p>Each time I will post a topic on an issue that can crop up in relationships. I hope that I will receive some responses because obviously I only can offer a male perspective. But trust me ladies I will try and get in touch with my feminine side as much as, feedback is very welcome.</p> <p class="center"><u>Topics</u></p> <p>When a man looks at another woman<br> When a woman asks a man about her appearance or another woman’s<br> When a man becomes distant<br> Outside influences<br> Real trust and the dreaded mobi</p> <p>I once wrote a poem to the only girl I ever truly loved. These are a few I lines that portray maybe the problems I will address.</p> <p>"That girlfriend that makes her think to much/ That mate that makes him think too little"</p> <p>"Together content he lay stoking her hair/ Separated pain to bear"<img src="http://data1.blog.de/blog/p/pain-is-love/img/gyenyame.jpg" border="0" alt="Gyenyame - "Except God (nothing exists)""></p> <p> <small> <a href="http://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/10/26/a_new_beginning_from_playboy_to_looking_~262681/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>relationshipslovehttp://pain-is-love.blog.co.uk/2005/10/26/a_new_beginning_from_playboy_to_looking_~262681/#comments