Tip of the day: Without trust what do you have really? But remember a lie does not make someone one untrustworthy, keep things in perspective. Have you ever fibbed?

Now I have never been one to go down someone’s mobile phone but in my last relationship on one occasion I was guilty. Why did I do it because I picked up a scent and having played the game the way I have I was adamant I would find something and I did. Who knows maybe she wanted me to find something. I trusted her not to be stupid and waste what we had but I didn’t trust her not to entertain men’s interest. If I recall I confronted her first and then went about finding evidence later as I just didn’t believe her excuse.

Rule #1 If you go down your partners phone the chances are you are more likely to find something than not.

This doesn’t mean the person is untrustworthy a rat etc. it just means you’ve found something that may appear worse than it is or was kept personal because that’s just what it was.

I mean come on how many people at some point have had a text message or a missed call from someone in the past that they choose to keep in the past? Does this mean you’re dishonest? Ultimately if you really distrust someone that much you shouldn’t really be with him or her. Secondly by going through their phone you have opened it up two ways.

The fact is this new technology has brought us a whole added complexity. Personal messages for you only are now accessible to other people whom they weren’t meant for. The mobile phone was the final “nokia on the camels back” for me. Although I did not cheat I had an old flame under a different name call it an ex-player hanging on to the past. With an already failing relationship and trust threadbare this did nothing to enhance trust values. So we parted ways, thanks mobi!

Ultimately you could be Colombo and someone could still be untrustworthy. The best thing to do is let it go and trust 100%, easier said than done I know but a lot easier to live with than doubting all the time.

Quote of the day: Don’t let your heart and mind stay at war
Carl Thomas - Rebound